What to Do When You Don’t Get the Job (Part II)

5 Ways to Chill Out and Calm Down | Think Piece by Anika May | anikamay.co.uk


I recently had a job interview for a job I was desperate for, if you follow me on Twitter, you will more than likely have seen my full on meltdown after having an amazing interview but not hearing anything for a few days. It’s really important for me to keep a positive mind-set because I’m notoriously negative and can usually find a bad thing in everything – eek.

As I walked into the room with my embarrassing sheepish smile and portfolio in hand, I admitted that I’m a huge internet geek, love watching movies and can be unbelievably lazy. Fortunately, the interviews didn’t see this as a bad thing, as the job was in an office where I wouldn’t be moving around much and spending most of my time glued to the screen. After an amazing interview, where I gelled with the managers and potential colleagues, I left (or skipped) home to tell everyone how I basically had it in the bag. The interviewers had told me they would get back to me before the end of the week, and that Friday couldn’t come fast enough. However, when it reached Monday morning the next week, I really started to worry and decided not to push the company, maybe they’re still deciding.

By Tuesday, the wait was just too much and friends recommend I just ring. I called the HR department and asked why no one had contacted you.

“You were unsuccessful. I’m pretty sure I left you a message the other day.”

Those words hit like a bullet, and I really didn’t expect them to. You know when you get that thing, and it’s like someone has just knocked the wind out of you? Yeah, I had that thing. Naturally, my reaction was to cry and behave like my life was over. But rather than do that, I remembered a post I had a few months back on What to Do When You Don’t Get the Job. The company I dreamt of working for didn’t even have to decency to ensure I knew the end result (I’m still slightly bitter about it).So instead of having a miniature meltdown, I watched The Devil Wears Prada and typed up this blog post. Here’s part II.


Don’t freak out. 

Even if you start doing that weird breathing thing and carry on like your six hours into labour, find a way to calm down. I have a tendency to panic and find it very easy to imagine the worse-case scenario, and find the easiest escape route. Remember – it’s not the end of the world, just the end of a chapter.

View it as experience.

I’ve only had a few job interviews in my life and it’s always nerve racking. I will organise a day down to the minute just so I don’t have to worry about anything going wrong. Having a few job interviews under your belt is a great way to gain experience and confidence when under pressure. I am way more confident in recent interviews in comparison to my first one.

Don’t give up. 

Just because it didn’t happen this time, doesn’t mean it won’t happen next time. It’s very easy to give up when something goes wrong, and thoughts such as “I guess I’m just not good enough” set in. Throw those thoughts away and keep striving for the best. Motivation comes and goes so it’s really important to acknowledge when you’re getting low and try to pick yourself up.

Don’t take it personally. 

I mean, unless they literally say IT’S YOU, it’s probably not you. It’s never just the personality the interviewers are judging, other aspects are involved and sometimes the fact s are what hurt most. I know most people aren’t so ridiculously arrogant that they can accept that there could be a better, more suitable candidate, but it’s harder to swallow when you’re passionate about the position.

My top tip after an interview would be to ask for feedback. This doesn’t have to be the second they say “thank you”, it could be when you receive the good or bad news. This is an easy way of getting tips for next time, and helps you to improve on your technique.