Feel Good. Look Good.

Feel Good. Look Good.

Hello Friday! As I’m writing this it’s 9am on a workday but I’m full of energy and feeling nothing but positive vibes. Now this is something that’s totally and completely unusual on any day of the week, but there’s something in my brain that’s just saying “I love being me” and it’s making me very happy. My mental health is still something I struggle to understand myself sometimes, it’s like I’m soft on the inside but rough on the edges, and those two textures come to a clash in my brain.

Anika May. Fashion Blogger. OOTD. Style. Anika May. Fashion Blogger. OOTD. Style.Anyway, despite my incredibly cheery mood, I’m wearing all-black again. What. A. Shock. One of my favourite YouTubers is Danielle Mansuitti, and she has an awesome life says: “if it ain’t black, put it back on the rack”, and I manage to live this way without meaning to. As much as I try to branch out and experiment when it comes to the way I dress, nothing compares to an all-black look for me. It almost empowers me. There’s something awesome about fashion, the one thing that draws me in – it can totally change your mood. It can bring confidence, which is valuable in the world of social media.

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Anika May. Fashion Blogger. OOTD. Style.

Speaking of confidence and feeling good, over the weekend I stupidly stumbled onto Facebook. I have a personal account that I never use, mainly because I friends with a lot of people I went to school with, and I’m not close to any of them anymore. Of course, there are some I still like and will have a little chat with from now and then, but majority of the people I attended secondary school with wouldn’t look at me twice in the street. I started feeling really down as I compared their lives with mine, those who are in long-term relationships or have successful careers. Then I realised two things: firstly, I like my life the way it is, so what’s the point in comparing. Secondly, I’m supposed to be loving myself, so why am I doing something that would tear me down?

What did I do instead? Well I threw on a cosy jumper, my favourite leggings, and cosied up on the couch with my little sister, watching hilarious YouTube videos. By the early hours of the morning, I felt myself again. When it comes to feeling good, it’s great to really think about what you want to do. Not what’s going to look good on Instagram, and certainly not what others think you should be doing – they can do one. The minute I decided to do what I want, ignore the irrelevant and get on with life, my confidence shot back up. In a matter of hours, I was feeling myself again, feeling like the real Anika and loving myself. Gotta stay fab!

“When it comes to feeling good, it’s great to really think about what YOU want to do.”

Anika May. Fashion Blogger. OOTD. Style.

MY TOP TIPS FOR FEELING GOOD AND FEELING BETTER

Think about yourself. There’s nothing wrong with a little selfishness, as long as it’s not OTT.
Find someone who can cheer you up with minimal effort.
Watch something funny. Laughter truly is medicine.
Hang out with a loved one.
Animals are always ready for affection. Hang out with your pet!
Play a game. Competition lights up the soul, gets you going, brings you to life.
Make a fire playlist and dance around the house.
Get outside, let nature do it’s magic.
Binge watch a Netflix series. I’m currently on Once Upon A Time and there’s a million seasons.
Shut down digitally. If it’s got a screen, turn it off. Take some time away.
Take a nap. My favourite thing to do. 

Anika May. Fashion Blogger. OOTD. Style.Anyway, back to the look of the day! This all-black skater skirt was made by my wonderful mother, who’s a fashion designer and a superstar. She made the dress to be worn alone, but also with jumpers, jackets and even shirts. The poly-cotton fabric is so easy to style, and if you look closely, you can see a little pattern in the dress, one of my favourite features! Check out my fave LBDs below:

BADASS BLACK DRESSES

Anika May. Fashion Blogger. OOTD. Style.I also have to draw some attention to this incredibly beautiful backpack. I got it from TK Maxx (obviously, where else do I ever shop?!) and it’s a Steve Madden product. Steve Madden is slowly becoming one of my favourite designers, because his pieces are so stylish and on-trend. No matter what mood I’m in, I just love everything from his line. My choice when buying the bag, came down to this one and a Fiorelli one. Now, Fiorelli is also one of my go-to brands when it comes to accessories, but Steve Madden just slid into first. I love the shape of the bag, it’s a very lightweight faux leather – so perfect for on the go. Plus, the bag comes with a cute tassel keychain which I just attached to the handle. Take a peek at some of my favourite rucksacks below!

BEAUTIFUL BACKPACKS

Anika May. Fashion Blogger. OOTD. Style.Next time I get bored online, I’m not going to look back to my old friends, old loves and old way of living. I’m going to look forward, maybe create a Pinterest board full of kittens or something. Write a blog post, paint a picture or hang out with my sister. I may not understand my own mental health, but there’s nothing wrong with trying to take charge while I can. So it’s Friday, it’s the start of the weekend and it’s time to unwind. I usually use Sunday nights to pampering myself, ready for the new weekend, but today I’m treating myself to something special. Maybe a KFC or something. I’m praying for productive and positive vibes, as it’s just what the world need right now. A little bit of sunshine.

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TGIF,

Anika xo

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  • Violette

    Nice look! I love this dress!

    http://violettedaily.com

  • Funmi Alabi

    Great tips, hun! Very valuable. You do look good too.

    Funmi xx
    http://www.funmialabi.co.uk

  • I agree, all black looks always look so good! I’m glad that you’re in such a positive state Anika, I hope it carries on 🙂
    I love what you told yourself when you started feeling down, so smart. xx
    Coco Bella Blog

    • Always 🙂 Thank you so much, Demilade! Glad you enjoyed xo

  • I love this, and you look amazing! I’m so happy that you’re feeling positive!xx

    Hannah | luxuryblush

  • Lovely post, also you look gorgeous!

    http://www.lydstaple.co.uk

  • Denise

    It’s so important to feel good, this exudes confidence and that’s when we start loving all we have. Comparisons only show that someone doesn’t feel right with their own decisions. I use facebook to post some quotes, cause it’s a bonfire of vanity, that platform. Only fake activities, people trying to impress each other, that’s not for me – I am glad you feel good enough to realize that, too! And you should, you seem to be a girl with deep thoughts! Loved your dress, you are gorgeous!
    DenisesPlanet.com

    • Very good point about Facebook, my personal account is simply full of people who don’t like each other trying to impress one another! Thank you so much for reading, and thank you for your kind words!

  • I love the positive attitude =o)

    https://dreamofadventures.com/

  • I love those little rucksacks. I could use one for roadtripping soon. It’s always best to just be yourself–there’s no point in trying to impress people. Happy weekend, darling. Thanks for the blog love! xo/Madison
    FASHION TALES

    • This was (from TK Maxx) was only around £15-£20, so not to shabby at all! Thanks, Madison xo

  • You look great! I love the backpack a lot!

    Daniel x

    The Daniel Originals | Instagram: danielpoonvignez

  • Jessica Pagán

    I love this look, you are absolutely gorgeous!
    I feel ya with the whole comparing my life to other people I see online and it gets me down too. I just try to think about my favorite people in my life and am like, well so and so’s life might be great but they don’t have my cool mom lol
    P.S. I am obsessed with your website!

    <3 Jessica

    https://linnstyle.com

    • Thank you so much, that’s so lovely! Oh true, cool mum’s are the best for sure!

      P.S. You have literally made my week, thank you! xo

  • Thank you! xo

  • Love this casual chic look! That backpack is amazing. Thanks for honest post.

    http://www.kathrineeldridge.com

  • Aprovecha La Vida Cada Día

    ¡Hello!
    Great post. Thanks for following! I follow you now;)
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    ¡Kiss!

  • Diana Maria

    This was a wonderful post Anika! I’ve found myself feeling the same way after bits on social media, even when I’m completely content and happy with my life otherwise! You’re right about taking care of yourself and taking a break from that. I think it often gets to the best of that, but that’s okay! xx

    Sending light & love your way,

    My Lovelier Days

    • Thanks so much for reading, Diana. I’m glad you enjoyed the post! Loved your comment, sending love right back xo

  • Great tips!! My favourite is definitely having a great playlist and dancing to it! It’s something that always cheers me up!

    Love the total black outfit!

    Andrea.

    Seize your Style

    • Yes to a good playlist, love that idea! Thanks xo

  • Kate

    Loving the laid back black look! I completely agree about watching something funny when you’ve been feeling down. It can work wonders! X

    Kate Louise Blogs

    • Thank you so much, nothing like a good laugh! xo

  • Love your adorable backpack, love your glasses as well. Thank you for sharing, you look pretty!!!

    xxx

    http://www.bridesonamission.com
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  • This outfit is casual but yet it looks very cute! I love it 🙂 x

    http://www.serenbird.com

  • Love the outfit, and love the positivity of this post! x

    Ariadna || RAWR BOWS

    • Thank you so much, glad you enjoyed xo

  • You are right, nothing compares to black! I do like a black outfit – it kinda never lets you down x

    franklyflawless.com

    • Good point, all-black never disappoints! xo

  • Lily Manon

    You are right and I love the positivity of this post !

    https://lilymanon.com/

  • So chic, love the all black
    xo
    http://www.laurajaneatelier.com

  • Your mum made that?! I was looking desperately for a link as I love it, it looks so nicely and bet it looks great layered under jumpers!

    The Makeup Directory

    • She did indeed – she’s a talented gal! There’s a few linked (the best I could find) but it’s definitely a favourite when it comes to layering! xo

  • I really love what you share. Thanks for all the tips. Anyway, this look is effortlessly cool. Love it.

    http://www.marliafransiska.com

    • Thanks so much for taking the time to read! xo

  • This post is everything. I have been feeling little down and horrible lately, so your list made me so happy. I might do some of those things tomorrow and just relax xx

    Heidi ✨ | Heidi’s Planner | Instagram

    • That’s wonderful news! I’m so glad I published then! Totally, enjoy your day of relaxation 🙂 xo

  • Elise

    These are great ideas! I also am loving that backpack so much!
    elise | http://www.elisebythepiece.com

  • Dressed With Soul

    I really like it how you styled the black dress!
    Many thanks for your kind comment on my blog. Do you want to follow each other?
    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena
    http://www.dressedwithsoul.com

    • Thank you so much! I already follow you on Bloglovin’ 🙂 xo

  • love your outfit, you look gorgeous!

    Capturing Life Memoirs | aimeebustillo.com

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  • Courtney Hardy

    I love all your tips. And it is important to feel good about yourself, but we can all get wrapped up in the comparison game. But it ‘s good that you’re spreading positivity about this.
    http://sugarcoatedbears.blogspot.com/

    • Totally true, it’s a slippery slope! Thank you xo

  • These are great tips! It’s always hard to not compare yourself to others. I do that every so often too. But we’re only human! I always go through my Instagram account and make sure I unfollow people who don’t do anything for me. Basically I just follow them to oogle over what they have and how they look, so every so often I do a clean out. 🙂

    -Emily http://www.coatandcoffee.com

    • Agreed! I’ve started doing the same actually, it’s nice to have a refresh on Instagram so I’m often following a few new faces! xo

  • Totally love this look for fall! Great post!

    – Cielo
    Mermaid in Heels

  • sophia tranter

    Aw you look so happy! I also feel like I need this bag now so thanks for sharing haha

    Sophia xo http://sophiaaaxo.com

    • I am, haha! Thanks for reading! xo

  • Social medias are the biggest factor to low self esteem and good on you for realizing that you are happy the way you are. xx

    Shireen⎜Reflection of SanityBurberry Beauty Giveaway

    • Agreed, they definitely have a dark side – thanks xo

  • so gorgeous!!
    xx Rubi
    Pose & Repeat

  • Kim

    Love the dress! And I love playing with animals whenever I get really stressed and want to feel better. Fluffy animals are so therapeutic!

    Kim
    simplylovebirds.com

  • Such a cute outfit dear! Indeed, you can never go wrong with black.

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

  • rohit

    wow great blog…. thanks for sharing this info…
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  • Lucrezia Candelori

    I love your look! And I totally agree with everything you’ve written! 🙂

    Love,

    Lucrezia ♥ (http://www.lucreziacandelori.com)