How To Cultivate Contentment

How To Cultivate Contentment

Anika May // WearAll // Denim Jacket // anikamay.co.uk // Fashion BloggerAnika May // WearAll // Denim Jacket // anikamay.co.uk // Fashion BloggerYou reap what you sow. I hear it in my head every time I do something bad and it comes back to bite me in the arse. But I think this phrase can be spun into a positive thing because when you do something good, the results are usually good. When you put effort and energy into a project, the end result is something to be proud of. When we act in a positive way, our minds become stronger and happier. That way we can sow virtuousness and cultivate contentment.

One of the best ways to seek happiness is to get rid of envy. Definitely a difficult thing to do. The feeling pops up in every aspect of life. For example, someone who barely puts in any work appears to have great things handed to them on a silver platter. Or someone else isn’t that nice of a person but has locked down the best partner around, despite having a terrible personality. There are so many injustices in the world, it’s hard not to become envious, spiteful and even bitter.

Although these feelings are part of being human, it’s dwelling on them that causes damage. Sitting and stewing over someone getting a new car does nothing to them and absolutely nothing for you. It doesn’t make their life any worse and doesn’t make yours any better. The same applies to sending hate out of jealousy, it’s a petty and unnecessary thing to do.

Anika May // WearAll // Denim Jacket // anikamay.co.uk // Fashion Blogger Anika May // WearAll // Denim Jacket // anikamay.co.uk // Fashion Blogger Anika May // WearAll // Denim Jacket // anikamay.co.uk // Fashion BloggerRather than focus on the lives of others, focus on your own. That doesn’t mean living with a selfish attitude, but putting energy into finding your own successes. After all, someone else’s achievements shouldn’t dampen your own.

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Cultivating contentment also includes taking hold of mental health, and trying to keep those darker emotions under control. One of the biggest struggles in my life is anxiety and low mood. I no longer class myself as depressed, but anxiety is something that’s extremely different to keep under control, especially as panic spells result in a feeling of paralysis rather than power.

There are plenty of different ways to exercise the brain and take your mind off problems, even if it’s just for a short while or to refresh. I try to avoid sleep, as it usually makes me feel even worse or sometimes lethargic. Games and television are two of the best forms of entertainment, and so easy to access. It’s no secret that Netflix is my best friend; any time I’m feeling particularly down, I’ll throw on a hilarious TV show or watch funny YouTube videos to elevate my mood.

The only way is up, but the challenging thing is getting started. When you don’t feel in the mood to do something fun, it’s difficult to force yourself to do it. But no one ever regrets having fun. Ever.

Anika May // WearAll // Denim Jacket // anikamay.co.uk // Fashion Blogger Anika May // WearAll // Denim Jacket // anikamay.co.uk // Fashion BloggerI recently discovered the benefits of exercise. In my mind, it used to seem like a chore, something I never look forward too, and usually tried to avoid. Now, I can’t get enough. It sounds quite strange as we’re in the colder half of the year and its dark for 16 hours of the day, but I love running at night. I have reflective leggings that I use to run with, and never go anywhere that’s quiet or dangerous.

After a long day at work, or at home blogging, I just love to get outside in the fresh air and run. It not only clears my mind, but the crisp air is refreshing. My music is as loud as possible and RunKeeper lets me know how far I’ve managed to go. Each day, I’m getting stronger and fitter, which makes me happy. After each run, the rush of exercise makes me incredibly happy. I know that if I continue to work hard and work out as much as possible, I’ll achieve the shape and fitness level I desire. Work hard, play harder!

Anika May // WearAll // Denim Jacket // anikamay.co.uk // Fashion Blogger Anika May // WearAll // Denim Jacket // anikamay.co.uk // Fashion BloggerFinally, being positive will forever be a must. It’s an essential to me, there’s no other way of life. It’s easy to write about but difficult to put into action. I’m not alone when I say there are days when I just want to scream at anyone who makes eye contact with me and punch a wall. However, trying that little bit harder to be positive, always brings the best results. There have been countless occasions where I’ve simply wanted to give up: on work, on exercise, on my friends and even on myself. But I kept going, I remained positive, and I stayed conscious of my mind-set at all times.

Every so often I’ll think: “screw it, I’m done” and just before I shut down, I think: “hang on, have a little hope” and majority of the time, I get through whatever challenge I face. Of course, this can’t be applied to every aspect of life, but it doesn’t hurt to try. There are some situations have to laugh through just to stop yourself from crying.

Putting a little love and positivity in the world will ensure a happy harvest.

A xo

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  • JoannasCorner

    Okay I definitely need a long denim jacket in my life!!

    http://www.joannascorner.com

    • Definitely, so easy to wear too! xo

  • Peppermint Dolly

    Such a great post Anika! So agree on the exercise front too – totally clears my head and makes me feel great!

    Rebecca
    xx
    http://www.peppermintdolly.com

    • Glad you agree! Thanks for reading xo

  • Fab post lovely! I definitely agree with exercise and positive mind. Exercising always cleanses my mind and makes me feel refreshed while having a positive mind just makes me so much more happier with whatever I do/think! x

    TOUCHOFGS

    • Definitely good to have a brand new mindset or a little refresh from time to time 🙂 xo

  • Courtney Hardy

    These are really great tips. Exercising my mind always helps, and makes me feel better about my content.
    http://sugarcoatedbears.blogspot.com/

    • That’s great! Thanks for reading, Courtney xo

  • Len Dela Peña Parent

    You are such a STUNNER!!!! FABULOUS look darling!
    Thanks for sharing!
    Much love, Len
    http://www.lenparent.com
    XO

  • Great look! I love your long denim jacket!
    I totally agree with you about the benefits of exercise although I still have to force myself to do it!
    Julia x
    http://www.thevelvetrunway.com/

    • Thanks Julia! I definitely force myself sometimes too 🙈 xo

  • Missy

    such a positive post!

    Missy
    TheFashionFusion

  • Some great tips here. I remember when I hit rock bottom with my anxiety I was unable to sit still, watch tv or read a book. These are the things I really treasure now! xx

    ♥ Carly Susanne ~ A Beauty & Lifestyle Blog

    • Definitely, wonderful ways to relax! xo

  • Missy May

    Gurlll jogging at night is my thing too. Its so freeing and the fresh night breeze on your face is cool. I agree with everything you’ve stated here. Truth!! I’ve that denim jacket in a soft pink colour and can’t wait to rock it. Nice casual outfit Anika. Looks like you and I live quite close. Hope we can collaborate some time. 🙂

    http://missymayification.blogspot.co.uk

    • Keeps you so refreshed right?! I never overheat! Love the idea of pink denim! Thanks so much! xo

  • I love your outfit it is so beautiful!
    bisous

    http://gallech.blogspot.com

  • Rina Doria

    I am loving the fit of this oversized jacket! I am following you on Bloglovin’ now too babe =)

    xoxo
    Rina Samantha
    http://www.andshedressed.com

  • Kathrin

    Such a great jacket! And an inspiring post! I agree, if anything, the success of others should inspire us to be better and work harder…

    Kathrin | Polar Bear Style

    • Definitely! Thanks for reading xo

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  • Ohh that jacket is sooo beautiful. And so true, what goes around comes around. Do good things to others and you will be a happy person. Thanks babe. Have a lovely weekend. xoxo Cris
    https://photosbycris.blogspot.com.au/2017/11/the-jewel-of-gold-coast.html

    • Totally agree, thanks for reading!! xo

  • Rosanna Briguglio

    Great tips and outfit pictures too, I really like the jacket!!
    Have a lovely weekend 🙂
    Rosanna x
    http://rosesrooftop.blogspot.co.uk/

  • So true! One has to be happy with what they have!! But it can be very difficult to not to want what others have, sometimes!

    With Love & Style,
    ♥ Amber
    ALL THE AMBIENCE

    • Definitely, we’re only human ☺️ xo

  • This is such a lovely post and these are such great tips to remember when we start to “sweat the small stuff!” Love that long jacket, too!

    District of Chic

    • Glad you enjoyed, thanks so much! xo

  • ifunanya Dibiaezue

    I totally couldn’t agree more. Thanks for the tips. I love your jacket!!….xxx

    http://www.sunlightdreamer.com
    YouTube|| Exploring Ogbunike cave

  • ifunanya Dibiaezue

    I coudnt agree more, thanks for the tips. I love your jacket!!!….xxx

    http://www.sunlightdreamer.com

  • I love your outfit, I can never pull off a denim jacket!

    You can catch me over on my blog :Janury Girl

    Lots of love,
    Liz

    • Of course you can! I bet you look gorge in one xo

  • Amanda

    Getting rid of envy is one of the hardest things to do, but one of the most rewarding. Great and inspiring post!

    https://styledwithamanda.blogspot.com

    • Definitely with you there, such a toxic thing! Thanks, Amanda xo

  • rae

    you look beautiful! And this post is very inspiring 🙂 Anyway, just saying hello all the way from Southeast Asia! 🙂 I hope you can drop by my blog too and follow if you like. Have a wonderful day dear!

    xoxo, rae
    http://www.raellarina.net/

    • Thank you so much, I’ll definitely check out your blog! xo