It’s really important for me, and my mental health, that I avoid comparisons that create a negative space in my mind. It’s an easy thing to fall into, we live in a world of highlight reels and Photoshop, it’s like most of the things we see online aren’t reality.
However, I also use social media for inspiration and motivation. I love seeing the success of others, ideas blossom and adventures taken. I love cheering people on as they reach new heights and break all the barriers. One of my favourite things about social media is being able to keep up with those who inspire me in my hobby.
My hobby is blogging, and I follow a ridiculous number of bloggers.
DRESS – PRETTY LITTLE THING
JACKET – TOPSHOP (SIMILAR)
SHOES – NIKE (SIMILAR)
HAT – M&S (SIMILAR)
BAG – TOPSHOP (SIMILAR)
With all this following, and my never-ending feeds, I can easily find myself thinking: “maybe I should be doing what she’s doing”, or “maybe I should edit my photos like her” or even, “maybe I should I act and look the way she acts and looks”. Bad move.
That person I’m considering imitating, is happy and successful because they’re being themselves. So, I need to be myself, to find that same kind of contentment.
As I mentioned, I like to stalk other bloggers not only to see what they’re up to, but also to be inspired. But sometimes, that inspiration turns into comparison, and I start doubting my own progress and following. That’s when I realised I should start taking inspiration from myself. Motivating myself… using me.
It’s really simple. I started my blog a few years ago when I wanted to become a fashion journalist and reluctantly apply to university. Since then, my life goals, achievements, self-esteem, friendship groups, happiness and everything in between has changed; for the better. Now if that can happen from just a few years in blogging, imagine ten years from now.
Or narrowing it down even more, I took a break from blogging after it started to feel like a chore in 2016. By May 2017, I came back to Anika May, ready to resume my creative position and publish content I’m proud of. Since then, I’ve experienced amazing opportunities, worked with brands I could only dream of and interacted with hundreds (possibly thousands) of new people through my blog. And that’s in less than a year!
As the blogging industry grows and changes, I’ll grow and change – looking back on my starting point to now only continues to push me to work harder and love what I do. Just the inspiration I need. One of the amazing things about this area of work, is that there’s so much to do and so many avenues to do down. I love it!
So sometimes I don’t always need to check in on other influencers, update my news feed or watch stories to become motivated. Sometimes I just need to reflect on my own progress, refuse to compare my success to anyone else’s, and fall back in love with my favourite hobby.