At the beginning of June, I started to feel life caught up with me. Every day felt like it lasted two minutes and there just wasn’t enough time anymore.
That’s when I decided it’s probably best to take a little break from a few of my priorities and hobbies to recharge and avoid complete burnout. There are plenty of people I know who have suffered from exhaustion and I think at this point in time, it’s almost normal for humans to feel and be busy all the time. Sometimes we feel guilty for not being busy all the time, and make ourselves busy just so we feel productive. I don’t think that’s normal. Getting so stressed that life is no longer joyful is in fact far from normal.
Of course in a lot of cases, we can’t just switch off from everything and take a month-long break for life. But I found a little wiggle room to release some tension in my life and get my mojo back. Being exhausted all the time resulted in blogging feeling like a chore, which is one of the reasons I wanted to quit in 2016. I really didn’t want that feeling to come back so I took a little break from blogging and learned some really important life lessons.
You will never please everyone.
It’s not our job to please everyone and it’s pretty much impossible. It took my little break to teach me that my life doesn’t actually revolve around other people and making other people happy just deprives me of happiness. It’s not worth it. No matter how hard you try, there will always be one person somewhere in the world who doesn’t like something. That’s just the way life is. We’re all imperfect and it would actually feel quite odd it everyone was happy with everything you did all the time. For me, the only person I have to please is God. And that should be my focus, not some anonymous commenter from three months ago.
Balance is KEY.
While on my break, I rediscovered a lot of hobbies that made me really happy. Things I kind of forgot about and never made time for because I just felt like I had to be working for money or doing something more “important”. Life is all about having a balance, get that sorted and it’s easy. I bought a couple of new books (including Pride & Prejudice which I’ve never read) and fell back in love with reading. I also got back to photography for fun, and not just for the blog. Doing the things that make me happy, balanced with the things that are necessary made everything so much more comfortable.
My blog is my blog.
This point is linked to the idea of pleasing everyone and comparison. As a blogger, you follow other bloggers, it’s interesting to see what others get up too and inspiring to observe what others achieve. I think it’s really easy for humans to get caught up in comparison and especially for bloggers to feel the need to keep up with trends or imitate what’s popular. While taking a break, I quickly realised I don’t want to my blog to be successful by copying someone else. It won’t be any fun trying to keep that up. I want my blog to succeed because I worked hard for it and people appreciate my content. That’s the key to feeling rewarded.
Don’t worry about the destination, just appreciate the journey.
I have a bit of an ambitious streak and I’m always thinking of the next best thing. I’m always wondering how I can improve and what I can do better. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it can take over so much that it’s like having blinders on in life, simply focusing on the endgame without appreciating the journey there. When I was blogging last month, I was churning out posts that included hard work and dedication but were done in quick time without enjoying the creative process. I started to ignore the little milestones and only focus on the big things, like follower numbers and so on. That totally stole the fun out of the memory; so my aim is now to enjoy every little moment, because it’s rare you can relive it.