I know we’re past Mental Health Awareness Week and Mental Health Month but there’s always time to talk about keeping our brains happy.
I’m naturally a private person. I don’t share a lot other than the things I create because it means letting a whole new wall down. It’s fine to be a private person online and in some aspects of life, but I also think it’s really important to open up and express yourself… get everything off your chest. There have been countless times where I have kept everything bottled up (I’m sure I’m not alone) and it’s all come to a disastrous end, usually resulting in some form of crying and maybe a mini-break down.
When we keep things locked inside, we add more and more weights to the pile, and we can only carry so much. Each person has to carry their own burdens, but I don’t believe those burdens should be beyond what we can bear. I think a lot of people reason that it’s better to keep things bottled up and private, because it’s just easier. It’s the best way to avoid an awkward or uncomfortable situation and can even be a coping mechanism.
I used to think my problems were no one else’s problems, so there was no need to tell anyone. I also used to think no one cared about issues in my life, so there was no point sharing. Then I slowly started opening up the people closest to me. My friends, my family, God, and those who love it. It can be anyone, but the benefits are priceless.
It sounds like a really cheesy credit card advert, but sharing is caring in literally every way.
Opening up takes a lot of pressure off a person. I used to suffer from tension headaches because I was constantly thinking about all the things that bothered me, rather than just saying them out loud to someone I trust. The peace of mind you get from releasing a difficult thought is like no other – it’s like all the bad vibes just float away.
Most of the time, we bottle up the negative things: bad experiences, sad feelings, low moods and it’s just not healthy. Some feel like they don’t have anyone to share their state of mind with, and that’s okay (I do too sometimes), so just write it down.
I have journaled for as long as I can remember and it’s always been constructive. There’s never been a time where I’ve scrubbed in my diary and completely regretted it. In fact it sometimes feels just like telling someone how you feel, while avoiding embarrassment. When I write something down, it’s out of my mind. It’s out and I’m over it.
Opening up is the best way to move on. It really is that feeling of letting go and allowing someone else to help, or just release that overstretched feeling. Bottling things up isn’t the same as being introverted. I think it’s important to alter that way of thinking, because there’s a huge difference. Introverted people prefer to spend time alone to recharge and sometimes come off shy. Those who bottle things up may put of the appearance of being content but really be struggling on the inside.
It’s a known fact that you can be your own worst enemy, and hold yourself back, so why not open up more? Record a voice note, write it down, shout it from a roof or tell a best friend. It sounds a lot easier than it is, but the first step is always the hardest. Just don’t keep it all inside.
There’s this floating idea that everything must be perfect all the time so nothing negative can ever be spoken into the air because it will ruin your life. That’s totally not true. Opening up makes life better, rather than just putting on the appearance of contentment. If you’re looking for someone to talk to, or feel down and alone, find a responsible adult or trustworthy friend. Or check out the info in the disclaimer!