…take them in and let them go.
While taking a little wander today with my camera, I started to dwell on an opinion someone else had one my life.
This person, despite being my friend, is very critical which sadly isn’t uncommon, and I have had to learn the importance of letting things roll like water off a duck’s back, no matter where they come from.
The opinion that got to me was aimed at my dress sense and overall “vibe” which can cut deep. Sometimes when a person says something that hits us the wrong way, it sits in our minds for years. That’s something I absolutely hate.
You could be having a perfectly good day, and then the minute your head hits the pillow something a random human said a couple of years ago pops up in your mind and circles around for hours. It’s awful!
On occasion we just can’t help it but I took an active decision not to let the words of another person.
Back in the good old days of 2010, Chipmunk released a song with Chris Brown called Champion. I haven’t listened to it recently but the phrase “opinions ain’t facts take them in and let them go” always sticks with me!
Going on a long walk and getting the toxic thoughts of other people into perspective really helps me to let go of them. People are imperfect, they will say and do things that hurt – and there’s nothing humans can do to alter this other than learn to live with it for now. The opinion of another person, whether they are friends, family and complete stranger shouldn’t alter the way I live my life because they aren’t qualified to judge me.
In perspective, an opinion is usually a string of words based on little evidence, especially when it comes from a negative place. It’s also to remember that everyone is entitled to their opinion, and everyone has free will.
Focusing on these points is helping me to develop a bit of a thicker skin, something which is pretty much essential for living life on social media. Fortunately, I’m not surrounded by a lot of toxic people so it’s easier said than done most of the time.
There’s nothing like a little walk around the high hills to make me feel better, so I hope you enjoy these photos too!