I know the year is already in full swing but I’m just so excited for 2019. I don’t like to make resolutions because I think you can create a new habit or start fresh no matter what time of year it is, and I don’t think we should wait until a new year to change for the better, but I do like the idea of a new set of 365 days and 365 different opportunities. Rather than set resolutions each year, I like to write rules that I want to live by. They’re like long-term goals that I want to affect my mindset and way of living.
I’m guilty of being a bit of a Negative Nancy. It’s not always easy for me to see the positive side of a negative situation, and so it’s a practise I want to learn and stick by. I don’t know if seeing the glass as half empty is a part of my personality or just a habit I have picked up over time, but I know it’s something I want to overcome.
In 2018, there were a lot of moments that taught me big life lessons, and a negative outlook made those situations feel way worse than they were. Looking at the downside also doesn’t help my anxiety or overall mood, and I’ve just learned there’s no real point in always being so negative. Whether it’s being critical of other people, myself or any circumstance – it’s gotta stop.
A good thing to remember is that each day will come with it’s own problems, but it’s how I react to them and how I chose the handle them that will affect the outcome. Constantly focusing on the bad, and always believe in an unhappy ending will only bring those results. However, trying to look for the good in every situations can completely flip this year for me. Being positive is a practise, and it takes time to learn how to do. Just like any habit, the more you do it, the easier it becomes; so looking at the bright side has to become a rule for me and it’s hopefully going to change the way I think.
This is something I find really difficult. I feel like I am one of those humans that was just born self-conscious. And it’s not something you’d assume about me, as I own a blog that’s filled with photos of myself, and I spend hours writing about my own life and posting photos of my own face on Instagram. But it hasn’t always been that way and I hope to continue to improve when it comes to celebrating myself.
I used to always hide aspects of my appearance. I’m tall so I would never wear heels, I have dark skin so I would never wear bright colours, and I would never feel confident in front of the camera. After a few years of blogging, I can smile in front of a lens without wanting to scream but there are still insecurities I want to work on, the main one being my overall confidence.
When I shooting for a blog post, I’m comfortable to a certain extent but I think there’s more to being totally comfortable in your skin. I believe it’s important to have an element of self-love and self-confidence to contribute to our overall happiness and that’s something I’d like to work on this year.
Comparison is the thief of joy. I plan on repeating that to myself over and over to stop comparing literally every thing in my life with the life of someone else. I think being comfortable in my own skin is the first step of avoiding comparison, but I also think being appreciative is important too. A lot of the time, comparison comes from social media, wanting something someone else has or wondering how to achieve the same success as another person. But if I appreciate what already have and show more gratitude for my own opportunities in life, I can hopefully tackle the need to compare one thing to another.
One issue for me, is that I seem to compare my “chapter 1” to someone else’s “chapter 20” – and there’s never any benefit. Blogging is the perfect example. Comparing my blog, which has been going consistently for a year or two to a super blog that has been running for over 6 years is absolutely pointless. It never makes me feel better, and I lose motivation.
Rather than compare aspects of my life to another, I want to take inspiration from it. Rather than wonder why I’m not on the same level as someone else, I want to observe and applaud the successes of others, then use that to motivate myself.
I have always lived a pretty simple life and I like it that way. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with living largely or to your own aesthetic, but I personally like living without the burdens that this world can something throw at us. Living a simple life is as easy as getting rid of clutter, budgeting and saving, minimising your closet, removing negative things from your life, avoiding drama, living in a smaller space, only using what you need, disconnecting from the world, downsizing and appreciating the little things.
Power of Positivity wrote an article on 101 Ways to Live a Simple Life and a lot of them are things that most people do every day. I think the idea of living simply sometimes seems like an extreme and over the top lifestyle, but it’s really very easy and something I want to keep up.
Living simply reduces my anxiety and makes every day tasks more enjoyable. Out of all the rules for 2019, this is the easiest to follow and actually take the least amount of effort – it’s something you can start straight away. When you live a simple (and drama-free) life, it makes other projects and hobbies a lot easier to focus on. Blogging and photography are just two of those hobbies that I want to really focus on in 2019, and I can’t wait to get started.
What are the rules you’re living by in 2019?